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As a new mom I was not prepared for the next days or weeks following having a baby. I delivered 3 months early and didn’t get to bring a baby home so I defiantly wasn’t prepared for the role as being a new mom. With that said I know my husband wasn’t either. So I came up with a few things I wish my husband knew before we had a baby.
1. I will feel unsexy and disgusting.
So many people saw me naked and at my worst including my husband. There is no longer a baby inside of me but my belly and the rest of my body will look like I do. I will continue to wear my maternity clothes not only because my pants won’t fit but let’s be honest maternity pants are the most comfortable clothing invented.
2. I am going to be sad and cry at a moments notice.
There are so many emotions after having a baby that I describe it as having an out-of-body experience. It’s perfectly normal (or at least I told myself) to be sad or to cry in the shower. It may require you to hug me more often and tell me everything is fine.
3. Please, no visitors.
I will most likely tell you that I don’t mind visitors but in all honesty, I want to be alone with just you and baby. Just be conscious of inviting others to the hospital room as it may be too much for the new mom. The thought of having to make myself look presentable or engage in conversation is more exhausting than you think.
4. I may need to be reminded to take care of myself and will need assistance in doing so.
I will need your help with some everyday tasks and will be afraid to ask for help. Please know I appreciate you taking care of me.
5. I will have separation anxiety but not from the baby but from you.
The thought of you going back to work will make me cry at times. I will have this unexplained bond with you and you will be the only one who calms my anxiety. When you can please stay by my side.
6. I will be overprotective with our baby.
As a new mom I will not want to share the new baby with anyone and that may include you as well. I also may not even want to share photos with others until I’m comfortable with doing so. Also, I may accuse you of not wanting to be with her as much as I do and just know I don’t mean it. I do not doubt your love for our baby. Just know once we bring her home finally I will be even more protective of our girl.
I don’t think there would have been any way to truly prepare my husband, as I didn’t even know how I was going to feel after having a baby. Looking back I wish my husband knew these things before we had a baby. But regardless he didn’t. But none the less he has been amazing through this entire process from pregnancy to now (you can read more on my entire pregnancy story).